From What You CAN’T Do to What You CAN
By Motivational Speaker and Human Behavior Expert Connie Podesta
The truth is, so many of us are our own worst critics. We spend countless hours, and a great deal of our LIVES consumed with the things we can’t do. Or don’t have. Regrets. Missed opportunities. Not one solitary second of all that negative self-reflection will do us one positive thing. What it costs us though is a very high price. So QUIT IT! Right now. And flip that equation over. What do you do WELL? What are your STRENGTHS? What are you PASSIONATE about? What is your CALLING? Lean into those things and let all that other stuff go.
I know, I know – “But Connie, most motivational speakers or experts tell us to focus on strengthening our weaknesses.” My thought is why? So you can get to where you want to go more slowly? There are things you were born to do. Things that you are inherently good at. Things that you are excited to put into play when your feet hit the floor every day. And then there are things that just aren’t going to click with you. Stuff you need to QUIT trying to do. QUIT worrying about. QUIT being self-critical over. And start instead to begin fueling the good stuff. Put your time, effort and energy into making the good parts of you even better. I’m not saying ignore your weaknesses altogether. If there is some things that can use some improvement – then by all means, work on those – but not as your primary focus. Figure out what you do well and lean into that.
Sometimes it’s best to just face our limitations and move on. Quickly. So we can uncover our talents faster. For example in high school I was trying hard to figure out just where I would fit. So I tried out for cheerleading. Didn’t make it. Unbearably sad Tried out for dance team. And gymnastics. And softball. Didn’t make any of those teams either. I felt like a failure. I thought my only chance was to take classes. Or lessons. Or private coaching to help me get better. At things I already knew I wasn’t born to do. Then…I tried out for speech and debate. Guess what? Payoff. Big time. It just clicked. What were you born to do? Sell? Lead? Facilitate? Organize? Plan? Create? Raise a family? Help others? Teach? Design? Build? What comes naturally to you? The job itself is not as important as your ability to find your calling somewhere, somehow within that job. Find your calling and you will find your spirit. Journey on.
Your life will change exponentially when you do.
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